Iron Rose Sister Ministries

Written by Naijuvelin Diaz, volunteer for Iron Rose Sister Ministries in Venezuela

Large crowds were traveling with Jesus, and turning to them he said: “If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters—yes, even their own life—such a person cannot be my disciple. And whoever does not carry their cross and follow me cannot be my disciple. Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Won’t you first sit down and estimate the cost to see if you have enough money to complete it? For if you lay the foundation and are not able to finish it, everyone who sees it will ridicule you, saying, ‘This person began to build and wasn’t able to finish.’ Or suppose a king is about to go to war against another king. Won’t he first sit down and consider whether he is able with ten thousand men to oppose the one coming against him with twenty thousand? If he is not able, he will send a delegation while the other is still a long way off and will ask for terms of peace. In the same way, those of you who do not give up everything you have cannot be my disciples. (Lk 14:25-33 NIV)

Understanding the meaning of the word committed is important. Close in meaning to words such as difficult and exposed, it is an adjective that implies risk, difficulty, or danger.

Many times, in interpersonal relationships, expressions such as "I commit to" in response to a job application, a study option, a competition, or a relationship are intended to include all the given conditions so that you can succeed. It is not easy to commit to accomplishing everything—even more so if you are unaware of certain situations that will arise.

However, Jesus teaches us to consider beforehand the cost and the risk of following Him and committing to Him. Jesus denied himself to prioritize us; He also requires us to deny ourselves in any situation or comfort to prioritize Him.

True commitment requires responsibility and faithfulness.

For example, the cost of infidelity without calculating the magnitude of the distress it could generate on a spiritual, mental, moral, and social level would likely lead to your total collapse and the loss of your communion with God. Underestimating the consequences of a bad decision devoid of commitment results in chaos.

Christ showed His commitment to follow the way of the cross. Focusing on our salvation, He carried that heavy cross, denying Himself, even to death. Showing genuine, faithful commitment to our Lord defines me as a disciple of Him. Giving Him first place refocuses me on the path of salvation by reminding me of the cost of following Him, compared to the cost He paid in committing before God to redeem me.

When you make the commitment to be His disciple, you also acquire eternal life (Jn 15:5-8). James 1:12 motivates us to obtain the crown of life by remaining committed throughout our whole life.

Maintaining a disciplined life of integrity means leaving behind curses, anger, worldly pleasures, or any situation that is natural for the human mind but that goes against the teaching of Jesus.

The rich young ruler presented a question to Jesus about how to obtain eternal life. Jesus asks him to sell everything he owns and give it to the poor. This completely discouraged the young man, who, manifesting an attitude of sadness, left. Material possessions and attachments to material, emotional, and physical goods are obstacles to committing to Christ 100%.

To commit ourselves is to let go of all burdens. If the believer is unwilling to fulfill this condition, they should remember Jesus' words, "Such a person cannot be my disciple" (Lk 14:26).

Following Christ and committing 100% to the Great I AM is the best decision, even if it is difficult. "Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial" (Jas 1:12a).

I am moved by the descriptive words of the apostle Paul when he expresses that he considers everything as garbage, as loss, in order to gain Christ, affirming that he left everything to follow Him. To assume this faithful commitment was his firm and best decision (Php 3:7).

God gives us the grace to commit ourselves fully to the Great I AM.

Are we really willing to give up possessions, convenience, and comfort to commit 100% to the Great I AM?

Written by Nilaurys García, volunteer with Iron Rose Sister Ministries in Canada

I once heard somebody mentioning that they noticed their friend had done a 360-degree turn in their life. My always curious and visual mind pictured the person doing a full lap around the track’s circle and getting back to the same spot, which seemed odd if they were trying to express that their friend had changed significantly. That’s when I learned that the saying “making a 180-degree turn in their life” means to go the completely opposite direction as they had previously gone.

Following the Christian life is also a 180-degree turn we make to obey and follow God’s commands. The prophet Ezekiel shows us instructions on what we should do to live. In Ezekiel 18:21-22 the Lord says:

But if a wicked person turns away from all the sins they have committed and keeps all my decrees and does what is just and right, that person will surely live; they will not die. None of the offenses they have committed will be remembered against them. Because of the righteous things they have done, they will live. (NIV)

It is also true that repentance or “turning away from the wickedness we have committed” leads to change. Second Corinthians 7:10 says that “Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death.” I questioned why some people would have such a hard time leaving their past nature and habits when they decide to turn their lives to Jesus. It seems that the answer to that question is not as easy as one would expect. To consider all our offenses as we reflect upon the actions in our lives and the deeds we have done, we start reflecting on our own behavior and what does not match the life that the Lord has called us to live.

But if a wicked person turns away from the wickedness they have committed and does what is just and right, they will save their life. Because they consider all the offenses they have committed and turn away from them, that person will surely live; they will not die. (Eze 18:27-28)

Then it comes the next step: “Rid yourselves of all the offenses you have committed and get a new heart and a new spirit. Why will you die people of Israel?” (Eze 18:31). To get a new heart and a new spirit, means to change the way we see things, and start anew to renew our way of thinking. Going back to the initial picture of the 180-degree turn, we could say that now that we followed all the steps to get to the opposite place, we need to replace all that we left behind. The Lord also tells us what He is going to replace our old self with: “I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh” (Eze 36:26). We have our answer!

What I love the most about reading these passages in Ezekiel is the question at the end of verse 18:31, “Why will you die, people of Israel?”. Why would we do what displeases the Lord, instead of what would bring us closer to Him? If we have heard His word and His commands, He has promised to give us new hearts and spirits. He is willing to forget all our offenses.
So, are we willing to truly repent and live according to His will? 

Introduced by Michelle J. Goff, then written by her mother, Jocelynn Goff, both in Arkansas

My mother has always modeled hospitality. Growing up, almost every Sunday we had someone over for lunch—people of different languages, cultures, and backgrounds. In honor of this week’s emphasis on commitment to one another as shown through hospitality, I can think of no better candidate to share one of her many stories. In her own words…

One Sunday many years ago in “early marriage days,” my husband came up to me after church saying, “See that man over there? I invited him for lunch.” “You did what?!” I asked incredulously as I looked at the man who had just walked into the church building that morning. He looked like he had slept in his ill-fitting suit. He had huge dandruff flakes all over the shoulders of his suit and in his eyebrows, in other words, a less than appealing presence of a man. I said, “He’s a stranger and we’ve got a baby to think about.” My husband replied, “I thought of that. That’s why I invited the preacher and his wife for lunch as well.” Again, my reply was, “You did what?!” I only have a one-pound meatloaf in the oven. We don’t have enough.” My husband gently said, “We have plenty. This man has $2.32 to his name and needs a bus ticket and ride to the bus station to get to his family. He came to the church for help.” Oh my! I was immediately humbled and changed my response to a prayer. “Dear Lord, please forgive my harsh, immediate judgment and please provide enough for us to share as You did with the small boy’s lunch of five loaves and two fish.” This was my prayer all the way home from church as I was also thinking of what else to add to the one-pound meatloaf.

When we arrived home, I got the meatloaf out of the oven and noticed that it had actually shrunk, not grown. “Oh my! Dear Lord, we still need a miracle multiplication here like You did with the small boy’s lunch.” I added to the meatloaf meal three cans of green beans, two boxes of macaroni and cheese, and a can of fruit cocktail with a sliced banana. Then I sliced the meatloaf and served the meal.

Everyone was served some of everything: meatloaf, macaroni and cheese, green beans, and fruit salad. We had pleasant conversation over lunch. The preacher and his wife agreed to take the man to the bus station and the church would pay for his bus ticket so he could go home to family.

After lunch when everyone had left, I cleared off the table and noticed the meatloaf. Do you know what? I had meatloaf left over! Everyone had been served, yet there was meatloaf left over. I remember in Mark’s account of the Feeding of the Five Thousand, “They all ate and were satisfied, and the disciples picked up twelve basketfuls of broken pieces of bread and fish” (Mk 6:42-43 NIV).

So, the next day as I ate a sandwich made with leftover meatloaf, I was again reminded of my prayer for God to multiply the meatloaf as He did with the loaves and fish and He did, and He gave me leftovers as a reminder of His abundant provision.

My reflection afterward was also on the scripture, Hebrews 13:2, “Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers, for by so doing some people have shown hospitality to angels without knowing it.” While I do not know if this man was an angel, I do know that every time I remember this event, it causes me to reflect on this verse and consider the real meaning of hospitality. We often think it’s opening our home to our family and friends. Actually, that is fellowship.

Fellowship is when connectedness or relationship is shared among those with a common aim or background. Hospitality is providing an act of service of welcoming, receiving, hosting, or entertaining guests or strangers. It’s an act of service, often to the least of these. In Matthew 25:40 Jesus says, “Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.” As I’m sure you, like I, want to serve Jesus Himself then we must learn to serve the “least of these.” This provides the greatest blessing to them, to us, and is Kingdom living.

Written by Beliza Kocev, Iron Rose Sister Ministries Brazil Coordinator

“Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?” Jesus replied: “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: Love your neighbor as yourself. All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” (Mt 22:36-40 NIV)

Jesus’ words in Matthew 22:36-37 show us which of the commandments is the most important of all: Love God, without reservation, totally, with everything we are and everything we have. But what is this love like? How do we demonstrate this love?

When we love God with all our heart, all our soul, and all our mind we make Him more important than anything else in our life. More important than our spouse, our kids, our parents, our social position, career, reputation, dreams, desires, emotions, and even more important than our life itself. Pleasing Him becomes our prime objective and purpose. And even though it may hurt, we renounce everything that distances us from that purpose.

Love seems difficult to define. And if we look it up, we will find various meanings and descriptions, as well as differing opinions.

Unfortunately, we live in a time in which the word “love” has become simply a feeling. To love someone is often confused with “feeling good with them”. But “feeling good” with someone doesn’t constitute love in biblical terms. In biblical terms, love is intimately linked to doing, and specifically, loving God and doing what He wants— that is, obeying His commandments, His will. Jesus made this very clear when He said, “If you love me, keep my commands” (Jn 14:15).

To love God is to obey Him. The greatest command is to love God and the way we do that is by obeying what He tells us to do. To love God and to keep His commands, the Word of God, are inseparable from each other. First John 5:3 says, “In fact, this is love for God: to keep his commands.”

Loving God with all our hearts is the greatest command. But loving God is not a state of mind where we “feel good” about God. Loving God is the same as doing His will. We cannot say that we love God and at the same time be disobedient to Him. Faith is not a state of mind. Faith in God and His Word is the same as being obedient. Let us not believe in the lies that try to separate one from the other. Also, the love of God and His favor comes back to those who love Him— that is, those who please Him and do His will. Furthermore, we also see that it is better to go ahead and do God's will even when we don't feel like doing it, than to disobey Him. This does not make us robots without feelings. We can (should) always talk to the Lord, express how we feel, and share how difficult the situation is for us. If there is another way, He will provide it for us. He is the most wonderful Master and Father of all, gracious and good to all His children. Jesus did this:

…My soul is overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death… My Father, if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me. Yet not as I will, but as you will… My Father, if it is not possible for this cup to be taken away unless I drink it, may your will be done. (Mt 26:38-42)

May we have courage, faith, and especially love for God to obey Him every day of our lives. And when it is difficult, may we ask God for the strength to do His will.

Written by Michelle J. Goff, Founder and Executive Director of Iron Rose Sister Ministries

When Nicodemus, a teacher of the law, came to Jesus in the middle of the night, the concept of being born again was incomprehensible. Somewhat sarcastically, he asked how someone who was old could enter again into his mother’s womb. Jesus responded to a fleshly question with a spiritual answer.

Jesus answered, “Very truly I tell you, no one can enter the kingdom of God unless they are born of water and the Spirit. Flesh gives birth to flesh, but the Spirit gives birth to spirit.” (Jn 3:5-6)

Through His death, burial, and resurrection, we are invited into newness of life, reborn and redeemed. The old is gone. The new has come... by being born again.

Or don’t you know that all of us who were baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into his death? We were therefore buried with him through baptism into death in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may live a new life.
For if we have been united with him in a death like his, we will certainly also be united with him in a resurrection like his. (Ro 6:3-5)

I love the parallel between Christ’s death, burial, and resurrection and our own through baptism! In Him, we “may live a new life.” Paul continues his letter to the Romans by clarifying what we die to in order to walk in newness of life.

I cannot keep walking forward when the past is weighing me down. I cannot continue to live entrenched in sin and claim to have a new life in Jesus. If I pretend that I can do both, 1 John 1:10 says that I am deceiving myself and the truth is not in me.

United with Christ, we can truly die to our past way of life and leave behind any and all things that separate us from God. I long to live as a new creation in Christ. I hate when my sinful attitudes, words, and actions return. My sins may not be as obvious as others’, but they are no less sins.

Only you truly know what God has redeemed you from—a dramatic betrayal, a hidden addiction, habitual lying, a toxic past, jealousy, crude language… When we accept God’s offer for a new life through His Son, He provides a way for us to reject any sin that defines us. Rather, for those who have joined with Christ in baptism, we take on a new name, a new identity, a fully redeemed life. He welcomes us to begin anew.

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. (1Jn 1:9)

No matter what our physical or spiritual age, we mess up while living out that new life in Christ. We can rejoice greatly that God provided the perfect sacrifice of His Son’s blood to wash us clean anew, ushering us into a new day, whose mercies are new every morning (Lam 3:23).

Does that mean that we can dance back and forth between darkness and light, sin and righteousness, lies and truth? No (2Co 6:14-16)! At the beginning of Romans 6, Paul says, “By no means!” Once we have died to sin, once we have come to know the light, once we have walked in the truth, we cannot be tempted to relish in its falsely advertised, temporary, and empty “satisfaction.”

Now, before you beat yourself up about how many times today you have already acted like the “old self” instead of the one made new in Christ, I want to share these two promises:

Let us draw near to God with a sincere heart and with the full assurance that faith brings, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure water. (Heb 10:22)

Peter replied, “Repent and be baptized, every one of you, in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins. And you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit.” (Ac 2:38)

Ladies, God knew that we could not do this new life on our own! God gave us the Holy Spirit, a part of Himself through which we truly can live as a new creation in Christ.

What will it look like for you today to live as a new creation in Christ? 

Written by Kara Benson, volunteer with Iron Rose Sister Ministries in Alabama

Count your many blessings, name them one by one,
And it will surprise you what the Lord hath done.

We have been richly blessed as daughters of God! Whether it is good health, family, or financial stability, there is always something for which we can be thankful. Furthermore, God’s provision extends beyond physical blessings; He showers us with spiritual blessings in Christ: forgiveness of sins, eternal life with our Lord in heaven, inexpressible and glorious joy, hope that cannot be shaken, a relationship with our loving Father, confidence to approach the throne of the grace, the inspired Word of God to guide our lives, the gift of the Holy Spirit, family through the blood of Christ… in short, everything we need for life and godliness.

Even if our physical blessings were taken away, we would still have so much for which to be thankful. The goodness of God far outweighs our trials and hardships. Paul writes, “I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances” through strength found in Christ (Php 4:11b-13 NIV). We can always be thankful, despite our situation: “Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus” (1Th 5:16-18).

Daily thankfulness is important because it…

• Dispels anxiety. The antidote to anxiety is thanksgiving. When I choose to dwell on my many blessings, fears fade from the forefront of my mind; these two thought patterns are incompatible. While worries may not disappear entirely, their power is significantly diminished in the presence of thankful thoughts. This truth is taught in Philippians 4:6-7: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
• Reminds us of our reliance upon God, not ourselves. “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—not by works, so that no one can boast” (Eph 2:8-9). We are dependent upon God, not only for our spiritual blessings such as salvation, but also for our physical needs (Mt 6:25-34).
• Teaches us to see the silver lining. We are instructed to train ourselves in godliness (1Ti 4:7), and gratitude is a godly characteristic. When we practice daily thankfulness, we train our minds to look for the positive and focus on the good.

A tangible way to count our blessings is to write them down in a daily thankfulness journal. If you are like me, you may have been unable to consistently keep a diary. Recording every detail of the day simply seems like too much time and effort after living it. When I began a daily thankfulness journal in January of 2022, there was some skepticism – primarily from myself! It turned out not to be a burden, however, but rather a fantastic blessing. I save my thankfulness for each day as a text message, then catch up on my journal entries when convenient. How wonderful it is to look back and see how God has blessed me through the past almost three years!

Let us overflow with thankfulness! “So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live your lives in him, rooted and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness” (Col 2:6-7). It is important that we connect our thankfulness for our blessings to their source: our Creator.

From James, we learn that “every good and perfect gift is from above” (1:17a). We should be grateful to God and attribute every good thing in our life to him. Let us approach God with a grateful heart and an attitude of thankfulness for His bountiful blessings, eagerly expressing our great appreciation in prayer and song: “Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise; give thanks to him and praise his name” (Ps 100:4).

We should also praise the name of the Lord to others. Overflowing with gratitude is glorifying to God (2Co 4:15b)! Thanksgiving is essential to letting our light shine in the darkness of complaints and criticisms. Cultivate a heart of thankfulness and share your blessings with others. When shared, sorrow is mitigated, and joy is multiplied!

Challenges for 2025

• Start a daily thankfulness small group text. Ask everyone to commit to sending one, “I am thankful for…” text each day. It can be as simple as sunshine or chocolate or related to an event of the day. This is an excellent way to encourage and be encouraged!
• Start a daily thankfulness journal and record how God blesses you every day. This is a great way to be continually amazed by the abundant mercies and faithfulness of God in your life!
• Speak more about your blessings from God rather than your complaints. People are drawn to positivity and may want to learn more about your hope!

Count your many blessings, name them one by one… indeed, our blessings are many! Let us count them, appreciate them, and overflow with thankfulness for them— to God and to others. Will you count your blessings today and every day?

Written by Anessa Westbrook, volunteer with Iron Rose Sister Ministries in Arkansas

When we read about heroes in the Old Testament, their example seems so unattainable: Abraham, Moses, David, Ruth, Esther, and Deborah. David. His relationship with God was enviable. In 1 Samuel God rejects Israel’s first king, Saul. Because Saul had not followed God’s commands, his kingdom would not endure. In 1 Samuel 13:14 it says that “the Lord has sought out a man after his own heart and appointed him ruler of his people” (NIV). I always assumed that being someone labeled “after God’s own heart” was only attainable for the biblical heroes of old. It wasn’t something that we could, or perhaps even should, consider. While it was obvious that a person after God’s own heart kept His commands, I felt that was not enough to really know what was meant by that statement. The Bible is filled with people who had followed His commands, but only David was given this label. I still remember the day that I bumped into Acts 13:22. This passage seemed to give definition to what I was struggling to understand. David was a man after God’s own heart because “he will do everything I want him to do.” While this was still a high task, and perhaps impossible, was there a chance for a regular person to have God think about them in the same way?

The New Testament shows examples of people living their everyday lives in a faithful way, and God using them in a special way at a specific time. Stephen, for example, was one of the seven men selected to help with the distribution of food to the widows. In Acts 6:5, he is described as “a man full of faith and of the Holy Spirit.” He worked day-by-day to support and encourage the early church, but God was also using him evangelistically (Ac 6:8). Stephen was someone whose character was shaped daily, and who God used to share the Good News and glorify Him in the difficult position of becoming the first martyr. Another example is that of Tabitha who Acts 9:36 says was “always doing good and helping the poor.” When she died, the widows mourned and showed Peter all she had done for them. Peter raised her from the dead and this act became a spiritual testimony to the people of Joppa (Ac 9:41-42).

However, the Bible does not just provide positive examples for us to learn from. David’s story becomes complicated because of some major spiritual missteps. Instead of accompanying his troops off at war, he was at home in his palace and became interested in a young woman who was bathing on the rooftop. After she became pregnant, he tried to hide the sin ultimately resorting to the murder of her husband (2Sa 11). Someone who both cheated on their spouse and then had their lover’s spouse killed would likely make the news today. How could God use such a person? The genealogy of Jesus in Matthew 1 adds an interesting twist to this story because it has three women whose stories would likely raise eyebrows even today: Tamar, Rahab, and Bathsheba. Why would the storyline of the Savior contain such imperfect people? Perhaps we are seeing a side of God that we have seen since the very beginning of the Old Testament: God as Creator.

One of God’s specialties is taking something that is messy and making something beautiful out of it. The inclusion of these people in the line of Jesus raises another important question: what if they had said “no” to God? What if they had felt too imperfect to be included in His plan or had not tried to make the changes needed to become faithful? In Psalm 51 we see David’s heart after he was confronted by Nathan. He did not justify his actions but recognized his sin. He begged God to cleanse him. David made the changes necessary in his life to become Israel’s most respected king and the father of the line that would lead to the Savior. The examples of those who strove to live a daily life that pleased God, as well as those who made the changes necessary to live a faithful life, invite us to reflect on being a woman after God’s own heart.

What is it that is keeping us from saying “yes” to God’s invitation to partner with Him in the kingdom?

Written by Rianna Elmshaeuser, volunteer with Iron Rose Sister Ministries in Colorado

Share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality. (Ro 12:13 NIV)
Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers, for by so doing some people have shown hospitality to angels without knowing it. (Heb 13:2)
Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling. (1Pe 4:9)

As a child, whenever I thought of hospitality, I would think of having people over for a nice meal, good conversation, and dessert. My parents did this often and I loved sitting and listening to the adults tell stories and laugh with each other. As an adult in a city with absurdly high housing prices, I cannot afford a home large enough to have more than one person over at a time. I do have a large backyard and on nice summer evenings, I can accommodate a larger group, but mostly I’m limited in this form of hospitality.

The good news for me is that there are other forms of hospitality and I think that is what the Bible is conveying more than merely having someone come to your house. Jesus did not have a home to invite people over for dinner either. In fact, he often needed a place to stay for himself and his followers, yet Jesus is the ultimate picture of hospitality. The Greek word used in Romans 12:13 for hospitality means “love of a stranger.” I know many people who open their homes and are excellent hosts for small group meetings, dinners, and game nights. In contrast, you may have been invited to the house of a person in which you did not feel welcome or comfortable. There are many reasons I have felt uncomfortable in a home, including it was so clean I was scared to step off the welcome mat, their spouse sat in their recliner the whole time smoking and playing Tetris (true story), no food or drink was offered, or the conversation was tense and awkward.

It is clear, from these scenarios, merely opening your home to others is not hospitality. Webster’s dictionary defines hospitality as “offering a pleasant or sustaining environment or being readily receptive.” There is much more to being hospitable than I initially thought. I have a friend who makes everyone who enters her home feel loved, safe, and comfortable. Her home is clean but not fancy. She welcomes you with a big smile and usually has it set up so you can help yourself to a snack or drink. There is an indescribable air of warmth and acceptance. A large part of the welcoming feeling in my friend’s home is her personality.

I may not be able to have gatherings at my home, but I can take the feeling of acceptance, warmth, and love with me wherever I go. Jesus had this same quality. For example, when a woman was thrown at his feet by a crowd demanding her brutal death, Jesus got down on her level. When the mob receded and it was just the two of them left, He spoke to her with love and forgiveness. Again, when He met a woman at a well with a long history of sin, He spoke with her, took the time to know her, and offered her more than she could ever dream; the living water of God’s love. Time and again, Jesus greeted the outcasts, degenerates, and poor with respect, love, and a spirit of hospitality. Hospitality is loving strangers like Jesus did; truly seeing them and being hospitable to their person.

Our church buildings are also places where great hospitality can be shown. How shameful if a visitor joins us as we worship God and feels unwelcome or unseen. The gathering of the church should be a place where the lost, hurting, discouraged, and faithful feel safe, feel loved, and feel welcome. In today’s society, Christians have a reputation as judgmental hypocrites. I used to find this offensive, but experience has taught me that this reputation is not wholly unmerited. In my experience, the central focus of too many sermons has been on sin and bringing sinners to repentance. I think a little more hospitality might go a long way towards bringing the lost to Jesus than a fiery sermon. After all, when Jesus spoke to the lost, He had great compassion and mercy. He reserved His harshest sermons for the religious leaders who were oppressing the people with their man-made laws rather than acting justly, loving mercy, and walking humbly with their God (Mic 6:8).

Sisters, let us be committed to showing hospitality, offering a pleasant or sustaining environment or being readily receptive, wherever we go.

Written by Kat Bittner, volunteer and Board member with Iron Rose Sister Ministries

And don’t forget to do good and to share with those in need. These are the sacrifices that please God. (Heb 13:16 NLT)

As a child, I remember playing with the neighborhood children for hours on end. We would wear ourselves out riding bicycles, exploring the woods, playing dodgeball, or just trekking to the convenience store on our military base for snacks and soda. I also remember not one child ever went without what was needed for our group playtime. Someone always had an extra bike to spare or proper shoes to borrow for our forest explorations. I also remember no one left the store without a treat— even if they arrived without a penny in their pocket! It was just rare for us as kids not to share what we could with our friends and neighbors. I even recall the time my brother and I searched high and low for loose change in the house so one of our friends, who was ten cents short on a favorite candy, would be sure to get one along with the rest of us. It took us two hours to find ten cents, but we all walked out of the store that day with a Whatchamacallit® and a smile. What a joy it was for us to give to a friend in need!

Oh! If adults could have the mind of a child, sharing and sacrificing for others, what a wonderful thing that would be. Yet that’s exactly what’s expected of us when others are in need. God calls us to “open your hand wide to your brother, to your poor and your needy, in your land” (Dt 15:11b NKJV). Whether this help comes from our time, talents, or a monetary gift, it is a Godly thing to do for others. It’s something each of us as believers should be eager to do. And it’s important to remember caring for others is an act of our preparation for heaven.

Tell them to use their money to do good. They should be rich in good works and generous to those in need, always being ready to share with others. By doing this they will be storing up their treasure as a good foundation for the future so that they may experience true life. (1Ti 6:18-19 NLT)

It is honorable for us to help others (Mt 5:16, Ac 4:32-37). We show love for Jesus by meeting the needs of others (Mt 25:35-40). Caring for others is a visible sign of obedience to God and love for Him. Jesus said, “All who love me will do what I say” (Jn 14:23). Ladies, this verse can be reiterated in several ways. Doing what God has commanded is a product of our love. Our acts of obedience are the proof of our love for Jesus. We show love by doing those things He has commanded us to do. And we do not truly know or love God if we aren’t loving others (I Jn 4:7-8).

No matter how you choose to help, it’s important to do so with a sense of esteem. You may only be able to give five dollars to the local food bank or church benevolence fund, but that’s five dollars for someone’s food or sustenance. Perhaps you can’t give monetarily, but time spent visiting with a shut-in or a patient in the hospital can be much-needed spirit care. Someone may need words of encouragement as they navigate a difficult time in life. Babysitting for a young mom who just needs time alone without little ones hanging all over her can be such a help. As a military wife with four children living far from home, and whose husband was deployed for long stretches at a time, that was a huge need for me.

We can reap benefits on the other side, too, of caring for another’s needs. Opening our hands to help others can be a blessing to us just as much as to those we serve. It just makes you feel good inside, ladies! Be assured, if you care for the needs of others, you will reap benefits beyond measure.

Give, and you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full—pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, running over, and poured into your lap. The amount you give will determine the amount you get back. (Lk 6:38)

What will you do to care for others and in doing so express your love for God?

Written by Johanna Zabala, volunteer for Iron Rose Sister Ministries in Venezuela

And all who have been united with Christ in baptism have put on Christ, like putting on new clothes. (Gal 3:27 NLT)

Today, through the new birth of water and the Spirit, I have at my disposal the purest and most beautiful garment that I have ever had or known, and even more, that unites me in Spirit with Christ Jesus.

Such a precious spiritual garment of Christ now in me, received by grace twenty-three years ago and to the glory of God, is what binds me every second of life to being constantly like Him, this being my most sublime first commitment of love.

To call myself a Christian today is to be able to exist more and more like Christ in every area of earthly life. Living in unity with Christ is also the most complete and integral blessing. Today, I live in an increasingly upside-down world, but having been clothed in Christ makes me feel safe, protected, and much loved.

Using the analogy of my new life with Christ, being already clothed with Him, I can confirm that everything I have lived and am still living in God's will with my husband was not and is not just to be happy, but more importantly to ask Him to accompany and support us. No longer being two, but one means we can attain in common the character of Christ, and thus be representatives of His name and image in the grandest garment—His Holy Spirit.

Some time ago, I read something that I have experienced myself: that marriage is where the mind of Christ can be most deeply acquired. I believe that having Him as part of the marriage relationship requires love and sacrifice, and, in a great way, to stop living only for oneself and to be one with the husband and vice versa.

Reading and personalizing Galatians 2:20, we are told, “My old self has been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me. So I live in this earthly body by trusting in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.” He unites me not only in putting on His unique divine garment but in His spiritual nature to follow in His footsteps toward the progressive path that leads to the goal of eternal life.

At this moment, as I am married and walking through the course of my spiritual years, I have indeed learned the importance of being like Christ. It is when I am controlled by human emotions, thoughts, and actions that I most need God and His wisdom, which only comes from the Father through His Son and in His Holy Spirit, who guides the way to the truth and life of Christ.

Like every one of the important aspects of this life, I remember that in my first years as a wife, after all the feelings of butterflies in my stomach, I began to experience a diverse rainbow of emotions, beliefs, and realities that led me to various struggles, increasingly complex, and that required, without a doubt, the Divine Presence.

I remember so many differences arising between the two of us. I remember those moments of uncertainty when every decision, every dream, and every goal was no longer just mine, but now it was my husband's decisions, dreams, and goals as well. Coming to an agreement was increasingly difficult. For example, it was quite a challenge when he liked grey and I liked fuchsia, when he liked details and I liked simplicity, when we found that we were more and more different. But by keeping in the mind of the Lord and His love, we have grown to complement each other more and more every day as one in Christ, clothed with Him.

This unity fills us daily with a love that can do everything, with incomparable joy, a peace that surpasses all understanding, firm self-control, wise meekness, great portions of patience, a flow of goodness, and true faith; characteristics that perfect everything we face to always be like Christ in each of the moments or places where we are. What a blessing it is to be like Christ! Are you clothed in Christ today?

Written by Brenda Davis, volunteer with Iron Rose Sister Ministries in Arkansas

“Who are you wearing tonight?” Celebrities are asked this question by members of the press as they walk the red carpet at a movie premier or awards show, and it is usually answered with the name of a famous fashion designer.

The apostle Paul tells us about who we will be wearing after we are baptized. “For all of you who were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ” (Gal 3:27 NIV). Reflecting on this metaphor, I can almost feel Jesus’ presence hugging me like a perfectly fitting garment.

Let’s look at what God’s Word says about baptism.

WHAT
In the Scriptures, we see that baptism is the immersion of a believer in water in the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit. It is our response to hearing and accepting the message of the Gospel, symbolizing our death to sin, the burial of our old life, and our resurrection to a new life in Christ. Baptism is our declaration of faith and represents an unconditional promise to God to do His will.

Baptism is a picture of death and of the grave. Coming up out of the water represents Christ’s resurrection (Ro 6:1-4). So, when you are baptized, you are saying, "I died with Jesus Christ, I was buried with Him, and now I am raised with Christ to a brand-new life— a changed me."

HOW
The Greek root word baptizein, from which we get the word baptize, means to plunge, immerse, sink, or wash. Another word more often used throughout the New Testament is baptizō which means to totally submerge, drown, immerse, or dunk into water.

We find several instances of baptisms In the New Testament where evidence points to immersion. John the Baptist baptized in Aenon near Salim which is along the Jordan River “because there was plenty of water” (Jn 3:23). After Jesus’ baptism, He “came up out of the water” (Mk 1:10). And both Philip and the Eunuch “went down into the water and Philip baptized him” (Ac 8:38).

WHY
Baptism does not appear to me to be merely a suggestion, but rather something extraordinarily important as it connects to our salvation. Several passages bear this out: “Jesus answered, “Very truly I tell you, no one can enter the kingdom of God unless they are born of water and the Spirit” (Jn 3:5). “Whoever believes and is baptized will be saved, but whoever does not believe will be condemned” (Mk 16:16). “This water symbolizes baptism that now saves you” (1Pe 3:21a).

Baptism is so important that Christ’s final instructions before He ascended to Heaven were, “Go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you” (Mt 28:19-20).

And when we are clothed with Christ, we receive rich blessings:

Forgiveness of sins and the indwelling of the Holy Spirit: “Peter replied, ‘Repent and be baptized, every one of you, in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins. And you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit’” (Ac 2:38).

Being joined with other believers in the church—the body of Christ: “For we were all baptized by one Spirit so as to form one body” (1 Co 12:13a). “Those who believed what Peter said were baptized and added to the church that day—about 3,000 in all” (Ac 2:41 NLT).

WHEN
Every person who has heard the gospel message and can make a conscious decision to believe in Christ is “eligible.” For some, baptism may follow a process of study, but lengthy Bible study is not a requirement. We find that New Testament believers were baptized in immediate response to hearing the Gospel message for the first time, such as in the story of Philip and the eunuch in Acts 8. Other instances are also recorded:

“But when they believed Philip as he proclaimed the good news of the kingdom of God and the name of Jesus Christ, they were baptized, both men and women.” (Ac 8:12 NIV)

“And now what are you waiting for? Get up, be baptized and wash your sins away, calling on his name.” (Ac 22:16)

“At that hour of the night the jailer took them and washed their wounds; then immediately he and all his household were baptized.” (Ac 16:33b)

WHY NOT?
Sisters, Jesus said, “If you love me, keep my commands” (Jn 14:15). If you have not put on Christ in baptism, what might be keeping you from submission and obedience to your Savior? I urge you to examine your heart and consider changing your clothes.

Written by Lisanka Martínez, volunteer with Iron Rose Sister Ministries in Venezuela

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens. (Ec 3:1 NIV)

Knowing how to wait on God, trusting He will always give us what He knows we need in His time, and He tells us what we should or should not do, requires practice and our firm commitment.

In my early Christian life, I had only a faint idea of how to tell others about Jesus. I also had a hard time volunteering to pray publicly for fear of making a mistake and giving a bad testimony (more than just stage fright). Even though I was always willing to serve and help in whatever was asked of me and wherever it was needed, I knew that I was not giving all of me. n my home I spent very little time in prayer or study of the Word. Nevertheless, I continued to read the Bible occasionally, attend classes, women’s gatherings, Sunday service, and teach children’s classes.

As we all know, God shapes us step by step through good and bad times as we accumulate experience. In my case, I am ashamed to confess there were moments when I failed and doubted my faith, the affection and interest of my brothers and sisters, and even the meaning of life. However, I kept attending, I kept serving, I kept trying to understand, and I kept taking my family to church activities until I understood what a commitment to Christ is.

In the past if someone asked for prayer, I thought, "Let's pray now." When someone needed comfort, I was there even though I only repeated the usual phrases and struggled to express myself. But now that I am more fully committed, I also pray even when they don't ask for it, and I continue to do so until I see an answer to that request. If I see that someone needs comfort through a hug or a kind word, I will give it to them, and if I am far away, I communicate with heartfelt phrases of empathy and love. In the past when physical effort was needed to do something, I did it, but only mechanically. Now due to my current health condition, if I want to support an activity that requires physical effort beyond my capacity, I know I can ask for help from others, and I collaborate in everything I can. I am now encouraged when I have the opportunity to knock on doors and invite others to a church campaign or activity. I go with enthusiasm and I love to look for the lost. My commitment has become stronger.

Knowing exactly when my commitment to Christ increased is a difficult thing—it may have been when I was disabled and had to leave my job as a preschool teacher. However, at that time I increased my involvement in Sunday school work. It could also have been when my girls left the nest, sadly, because I could have been a better example for them. But during that time, my health kept me very busy and mostly focused on prayer. Then came the time of the pandemic where, thanks be to God, my husband and I were able to dedicate ourselves to reading and studying the Word daily, contacting brothers and sisters from other places. Thanks to the technological resources inspired by God, we were learning, having the desire to study more every day, practicing what we had learned, and sharing it with others.

I now understand that committing to Christ is a pleasure, that we must feel love, accept responsibility, have enthusiasm, dedication, and desire to learn and feel very good with each step we take in that direction. I also know this commitment will sometimes tempt us to try to overcome obstacles on our own and fatigue or discouragement may result. It is a task that tests us many times and does not always give the expected results.

If we dedicate our time to working for the Lord, He will bless it. I know I should not give up when adverse situations arise. My health is going through hard times; I pray while I cry because of the pain, but I also praise very strongly. When I want to attend an activity but my economic situation prevents me from doing so, I ask those who attend to send me photos, audio, or videos of the activity, and I share them, feeling grateful for the technology. Every day, I share with someone about God and the Gospel of salvation.

Do you think we should commit only when physically and emotionally well? Does your financial situation influence your work for the Lord? Let us remain committed even when we are faced with challenging times.

Written by Ayane Nayara, volunteer with Iron Rose Sister Ministries in João Pessoa, Brazil

But you, God, see the trouble of the afflicted; you consider their grief and take it in hand. The victims commit themselves to you; you are the helper of the fatherless. (Ps 10:14 NIV)

When we have a relationship with God, we can enjoy many of His characteristics; we get a taste of what He is. We taste His love, His faithfulness, His kindness, His mercy, His grace, His generosity, among other attributes of our God, including His commitment.

To better understand this attribute, let’s think about its meaning. Commitment is an obligation assumed by one or more parties. It is an agreement or pact made by someone with another being or with themselves.

God as our Creator and Father is committed to us. Since the creation of man, He has made promises and covenants with humanity and His people. He planned every part of our journey and He committed to fulfilling it. Unfortunately, these covenants were broken, not by God, but by man. When a covenant is broken, both parties no longer have the obligation or commitment to fulfill what was agreed. However, what we do does not change who God is.

God takes on a responsibility with us. Like a true father, He knows our needs and despite our faults, He is committed to keeping His covenant. At all times, He seeks to teach us, make us grow, and bring us back to His path.

In Jeremiah 29, part of His people was exiled in Babylon. It was a difficult time for them. Israel had failed God; they once again broke the covenant with the Father and were suffering the consequences. However, the Lord remembered them and made this clear when He sent them a letter through the prophet Jeremiah, asking them to remain firm, not to listen to false prophets, to multiply, and stay alive.

In verse 11 He says, “For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” All along, the Lord has been committed to helping, loving, and rescuing His people.

In the Old Testament, He made a covenant with one people, while still blessing others. From humanity: broken alliances, broken promises, betrayal in worship, among other failures; from God: fidelity and commitment.

In the New Testament, He makes a covenant not only with one people but with all those who are open to His will. He gave us His Son so that through Him we could draw closer, and He left us His Spirit as proof of the commitment He has made to take us to our heavenly home. From humanity: the same situation as in the Old Testament; from God: He remains committed. Unlike before, we now have His grace that allows us to get closer to our Father. Even so, in response to His unconditional commitment, He asks us to commit. We need to seek and strive to bring who we are to who the Father is. He does not force us to enjoy who He is, but He is available when we seek Him.

We must always remember that no matter what we do, God remains committed to us as long as we repent and return to Him.

Remember: God is a Father committed to helping, loving, and rescuing us.

He loves us, allowing us to learn from the consequences of our mistakes. He helps us, revealing our sin, guiding us where to walk and what our attitude should be to grow. And He rescues us, reminding us of our covenant with Him and fulfilling His promises.

“Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. I will be found by you,” declares the LORD, “and will bring you back from captivity.” (Jer 29:12-14a)

Written by Katie Forbess, volunteer and Board President with Iron Rose Sister Ministries in Missouri

As iron sharpens iron,


so one person sharpens another.
Proverbs 27:17

Looking at past blogs on the IRSM website which I have written or been a part of, I see the foundation of the notes that I have been writing for this blog. It is a comforting reminder that God has been working consistently in the same ways through my commitment to Iron Rose Sister Ministries through relationships, prayer, and reliance on Him.

If you ask me how I am most committed to my Iron Rose Sisters, I will tell you it is in prayer. Why? Because all other things I do have the possibility of failure. Someone won’t like the words or scripture I share or the gift I have chosen. I will let them down with my overwhelming humanness. But through prayer, God uses my holiness to bless them. The Spirit intercedes for them as He does for me. With all the groans and lack of words, He communicates the soul's cry to the Father.

Actions are a must. Listening and following through on the Spirit’s promptings to act are essential (Called to Listen and Committed to Listen books). And the way that I know I can best help someone is to bring them to the Father in prayer.

Prayer is an awesome testimony of love. Recently, a prayer line that I am on spent the whole time praying for a fellow sister who was a caregiver. One of the most amazing things to listen to was other sisters who I know are also caregivers holding up this sister in prayer. For an hour. Prayer after prayer. Some in the form of songs, others through readings of the scripture. A few laughs and a whole lot of tears.

This also happens during the weekly team meetings of Iron Rose Sister Ministries. The meeting begins with a devotional, and prayer is always included; not a general prayer, but a prayer that inserts our lives into the lives of others and presents our hearts before the Lord, always asking in confidence, trusting He not only hears us, but He is in control.

These kinds of relationships are the foundation of IRSM and the goal to grow closer to God and one another. Through moments like these, the team is prepared to make important decisions like the very difficult one made recently to cancel a trip. The trip was planned and prayed over, the events set up, and invitations sent out. Michelle and Julia were prepped and ready. The Spirit was willing but literally, the flesh could not make it. The unity of the team and the trust on all sides that the decision was being made for God’s glory was not easy. But it worked out and the team was amazing in their response to all the things that had to be done, from the refunding of tickets to the communication with the congregations. After countless prayers and some tears, it was evident. God blessed the process.

This is only one example, and I will say with confidence that as the team and ministry grow, the stories grow, as does our faith through our time in prayer.

So, if you want to know how to be committed to your Iron Rose Sisters, my answer is prayer. If you want better relationships, pray. If you want to truly help the sister who just lost her husband, pray. Please do not hear me say that prayer is a magic incantation and that no other action is involved. At the very least God will change your heart, but it’s more likely that He will change your perspective about what action needs to be taken.

Praying always.

Written by Rianna Elmshaeuser, volunteer with Iron Rose Sister Ministries in Colorado

Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful. And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching. (Heb 10:23-25 NIV)

The New Testament has five verses that mention “good deeds,” and four of those are in 1 Timothy. Paul instructs women to be more concerned about adorning themselves with good deeds than the latest fashions (2:9-10), the rich to be rich in good deeds rather than trusting in their material wealth (6:18), and that good deeds, like sins, will be found out eventually, both the obvious and not (5:25). First Timothy 5:10 provides some examples of good deeds: bringing up children, showing hospitality, washing the feet of the Lord’s people, helping those in trouble, and being devoted to all kinds of good deeds.

Verses 24-25 in Hebrews 10 grammatically suggest that the opposite of spurring one another on toward love and good deeds is giving up on meeting together. Anyone who has gone to the same church for more than a few years knows that where there are people, there are problems. None of us is perfect, so we sometimes hurt each other accidentally or out of selfishness, or because we ourselves have been hurt. Hebrews is a call to not give up on each other, but to continue in good deeds and to love one another as Christ loved us.

Some of the most bonding experiences with my fellow saints have been when we were out in the world doing good deeds and working for the Lord. We did not have time to squabble about someone getting in someone else’s lane or how so-and-so should have done things this way instead. There was simply such an overwhelming amount of work to be done and people to serve that no one got in each other’s way.

Perhaps the author of Hebrews is instructing the church not to lose the mission of seeking and saving the lost. In America, it is easy to become consumers within our congregations instead of serving others. The list in 1 Timothy covers serving the Lord’s people and those in trouble. Who is in more trouble than the lost? We also tend to hide our own troubles, hurts, and problems from each other. If we only knew the pain and suffering going on within our congregations, suddenly the arrangement of classroom chairs wouldn’t seem as big of a deal. I have a friend who runs a shoe-shining business. Her business has been successful for many years, and she says it’s because she trains her employees to listen to the customers while they are shining their shoes. Her customers are CEOs and high-powered people who frequently find themselves in tears because someone has taken the time to listen to them and care about their day.

The list of deeds does not include handing someone money. When we are doing good deeds for the Lord’s people and the lost—washing their feet, helping to bring up their children, and showing hospitality—these things take time. Even when you get hurt, rather than quitting and finding another church, it is so important to keep doing good deeds and loving each other. We need to keep spending that time, taking time to listen to each other’s needs, and working out our problems.

The message of the world when someone hurts you or offends you is to say, “I deserve to be treated better,” and to leave that relationship, job, or whatever. We, as aliens and strangers in this world, are called to a different response. Do not leave, do not give up meeting together. Instead, awkward as it may be, keep meeting together, keep encouraging each other, and keep doing good deeds together or for each other. It is when we give up that the enemy wins. What is sweeter than the restoration of a friendship when you thought you had lost a friend forever because you messed up? So often Christians focus on commitment in a marital context, but commitments to friendships, to family, and to the brothers and sisters in Christ’s church are just as necessary if the work of God’s Kingdom is to continue. It is not an easy path. Commitment rarely is. But Jesus called us to be set apart for Him— to be different than the world. Continuing to encourage each other and love each other makes us radically different than the world. I pray that we will all make this commitment.

In the context of small groups or trios of women, we have an opportunity to participate in authentic, genuine relationships that can deepen our relationships with God and one another. Iron Rose Sister Ministries prays that we can equip you in those relationships, especially in your local churches and small groups. And one of the ways we do that is represented by the Common Threads— the three elements of the ministry logo. They are a way of making any Bible lesson very personal and practical: the sermon on Sunday mornings, your personal Bible reading, or your favorite chapter in an Iron Rose Sister Ministries Bible study book.

The Rose in The Common Threads
The bloom of the rose reminds us that we are all beautiful and unique roses in God’s Garden. It represents the areas in our spiritual lives in which we long to bloom or flourish.

“…making it bud and flourish… so is my word that goes out from my mouth…” (Isa 55:10-11).

The Thorn in the Common Threads
The stem represents the thorns we identify and want to remove. They may be thorns like Paul’s (2Co 12:7-10) that torment us, or they may be sin struggles that hinder our growth.

“…a thorn in my flesh to torment me… throw off the sin that so easily entangles…” (2Co 12:7-10; Heb 12:1)

The Iron in the Common Threads
Iron Rose Sisters, as shown in the form of the cross, lovingly serve as iron sharpening iron, as God transforms us into the image of Christ, and as we deepen our relationships with God and one another. 

“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” (Pr 27:17)

Written by Adriana Rocha, volunteer with Iron Rose Sister Ministries in Brazil

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. (Php. 4:6 NIV)

When I converted to Christ, I discovered that I possessed a weapon to use against my problems: prayer! In my process of learning to pray, I also realized how many things within me I needed to work on and improve. But, oftentimes with the wrong motives, I used prayer as a blindfold that kept me from seeing what was really happening and what I needed to do.

Over the past few years, during a very difficult period of my life, I have had my most intense experience with prayer. Although I did not intend for prayer to be a last resort, it was all that was left when all the other options were no longer available. But I was in a battle that I did not fight alone—I always had my relationship with God. In the moments that discomfort kept me from sharing with my brothers and sisters about the situation, I sought comfort in God.

This situation taught me that I need to pray, asking for help from God to see things as they truly are, discernment to know how I should proceed, and understanding of how and what to pray for. “In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans” (Ro. 8:26). Once we understand what to do, we need to ask God for the strength to act.

One of the things that was very positive for me during this process was having a friend persevering in prayer with me. This dear, trusted sister spent hours on the phone with me. Our time together sharing what was happening and praying was very important to me. When I didn’t want to be patient and wanted to simply act without waiting for what God had prepared for me, this sister helped me to see the importance of God’s process of preparation. It is so precious to have someone praying with us: “For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them” (Mt. 18:20).

Oftentimes during the break in church service, we would go into a room so that I could share how I was feeling, and we would pray together because I didn’t want anyone else to hear about the bad things that were happening. “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective” (Jas. 5:16). Her encouragement for us to pray together made all the difference for me. She was also going through some difficult struggles and our friendship allowed us to pray for her problems as well.

But this time with her in communion and prayer did not replace my alone time with God. I continued praying “alone” too! I learned that even though God knows all things, rather than throw around random situations, my prayers should be specific. I prayed even in the moments that I didn’t know what to say to God, trying to hand over the situation to Him instead of spending my energy on something that I couldn’t do anything about.

I prayed even on the days that I had just enough strength to slide out of bed and get down on my knees and, not knowing what to say, just cry. “Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart” (Jer. 29:12-13). I feel that God has given me the strength and heart to keep me on my feet while facing this problem, sustaining me so that the new demands won’t shake me.

During the entire situation, one verse remained on my mind: “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go” (Jos. 1:9). If going through all of that was as difficult as it was, imagine going through it without God’s sustenance.

To conclude, I want to remind you that prayer frees us and brings us relief. It is a blessing to give up our worries to God. Even when we are unable to express them with words, God knows what we mean. “Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful” (Col. 4:2). We cannot do what is not up to us. We need to hand our worries over to God. People often say: “All I can do is pray,” as if that were something small. But praying is the most important action of all. Instead, we should say, “I’m going to do the best thing I can do: pray!” Stop going around in circles on your own, come to the Creator, and follow His guidance.

What about you? Are you willing to be prepared by God to act after your prayer?

Written by Kara Benson, volunteer with Iron Rose Sister Ministries in Alabama

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. (2Co 1:3-4 NIV)

The Creator of the entire universe is described as the “Father of Compassion”; how beautiful and comforting! However, what exactly is compassion? In Hebrews 1:3a, we read that “the Son is the radiance of God’s glory and the exact representation of his being.” Therefore, we can examine the life of Jesus to understand the nature of compassion.

In the gospel of Matthew, Jesus travels through towns and villages, “teaching in their synagogues, preaching the good news of the kingdom, and healing every disease and sickness” (Mt 9:35). Jesus had compassion on the people He saw. He healed a leprous man (Mt 8:3), two blind men (Mt 20:29-33), sick members of a large crowd (Mt 14:14), and provided food for 4,000 hungry people (Mt 15:32). In the account of Jesus healing the two blind men, some versions say that Jesus was moved with compassion. When Jesus felt sympathy for others, He did something about it. From Jesus, we learn that compassion implies action.

As disciples of Christ, we are called to follow in His footsteps (Mk 8:34-35). We are to willingly lay aside our sin and self-absorption in the pursuit of Christ, following His example of being moved with compassion. Jesus declares, “Whoever serves me must follow me; and where I am, my servant also will be. My Father will honor the one who serves me” (Jn 12:26). According to the picture painted in scripture, compassion is clearly a central part of our commitment to serving Christ; it is even the basis for the separation of the sheep and goats on judgment day. Carefully consider this critical scene:

When the Son of Man comes in his glory, and all the angels with him, he will sit on his glorious throne. All the nations will be gathered before him, and he will separate the people one from another as a shepherd separates the sheep from the goats. He will put the sheep on his right and the goats on his left. Then the King will say to those on his right, “Come, you who are blessed by my Father; take your inheritance, the kingdom prepared for you since the creation of the world. For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.” (Mt 25:31-36)

Subsequent verses explain that when we show compassion by fulfilling the needs of the least of Jesus’ followers, we are effectively serving Jesus himself. Let us contemplate the eternal value of exhibiting compassion.

The apostle Paul writes,

Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. (Col 3:12-14)

How can we show compassion by our actions?

• Volunteer at a pantry
• Drive someone to their doctor’s appointment
• Prepare food for someone who is sick, grieving, or a new mother
• Fervently pray for someone throughout the day
• Provide a listening ear for someone who needs comfort
• Help someone pack, unpack, or clean their house
• Humbly address unrepentant sin in a sister’s life that is endangering her soul
• Visit someone in the hospital, recovering at home, or lonely
• Forgive someone. Scripture frequently presents compassion and forgiveness together, indicating a connection between the two. As Ephesians 4:32 instructs, “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”

A hard-working sister in our congregation is a good example of a compassionate Christian. She invited me to volunteer alongside her at a food pantry, woke up hours before sunrise to take me to an outpatient procedure, teaches children’s Bible classes, and regularly helps aging and disabled church members who need assistance. She can almost always be found doing something for someone. Her compassion reminds me of my favorite verse: “God is not unjust; he will not forget your work and the love you have shown him as you have helped his people and continue to help them” (Heb 6:10).

Compassion implies action. How can you show compassion today?

Written by Vivian Arcila, volunteer with Iron Rose Sister Ministries in Canada

Listen to my prayer! Look down and see me praying night and day for your people Israel. I confess that we have sinned against you. Yes, even my own family and I have sinned! (Ne 1:6 NLT)

The book of Nehemiah not only sequentially details the biblical way to resolve conflicts and crises but also highlights the importance of confessing sin as an essential part of restoring our relationship with God.

It is interesting that when Nehemiah learns of the situation in Jerusalem and its captives, the first thing he mentions in his prayer is confession, not only of his personal sin but also of his family and his nation. He knew that the disobedience of the people of Israel had resulted in their destruction, and he felt responsible as well. Since ancient times, we have noticed that sin that is not corrected and is practiced deliberately can affect not only the person who commits it but also their family and even an entire nation.

Psalm 14:3 says, "But no, all have turned away; all have become corrupt. No one does good, not a single one!" As a God-fearing man, Nehemiah was aware that, although his works were pleasing to God, the human being is a sinner by nature. Nehemiah may have felt that he could have done more for his people before things got worse, but the truth is that confession is an essential part of our Christian lives.

Our walk in Christ begins with acknowledging that we have sinned before Him, repenting of our sins, and confessing Jesus as our Lord and Savior, which is confirmed with baptism and perseverance. Romans 10:9 says, "If you openly declare that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved." The doors of spiritual blessings begin to open with confession.

However, confession does not get stuck at the moment when we give our lives to Jesus. It should be a daily act to recognize Christ's lordship and discover our faults. In the face of every difficult situation, we must examine ourselves and confess our offenses to our Creator. In that moment of reflection, think about how much our personal sin has affected the family and, in some way, the community or society, and confess before God our participation in it, either directly or indirectly. It is not only sin to do evil to our fellow men, but also to fail to do good as James 4:17 says, "Remember, it is sin to know what you ought to do and then not do it."

Am I studying the Bible, praying, examining myself, and confessing my sins frequently? That helps me connect to God and cultivate a meek character that my family, church brothers and sisters, neighbors, drivers, people at the grocery store, and coworkers will notice. Not having good communion with God affects us personally because we lose peace, which is reflected in the treatment of our relatives and neighbors, causing a domino effect on the individual, family, church, society, and the whole world.

Let's try to make an effort daily in our relationship with God because it impacts, in one way or another, the life of our family and the lives of the people around us. Before we met Jesus, we were like a city with walls destroyed by sin. Now, we are being built on the rock that is Christ.

Written by Brenda Davis, volunteer with Iron Rose Sister Ministries in Arkansas

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. (Eph 4:29 NIV)

In Stephen Covey’s The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People® we find Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood®. Like almost all of Covey’s highly respected writing, this is based in Scriptural truth: "To answer before listening— that is folly and shame" (Pr 18:13). “A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion” (Pr 18:2 ESV).

Hearing is easy. Listening? Not so much. So, what's the difference between hearing someone and listening to them? Hearing is simply being aware that they are speaking. Listening is tuning in to what they are saying in order to understand and respond.

In Matthew 15:10, we find that the Lord called on the crowd to go beyond just hearing His words: “Jesus called the crowd to him and said, ‘Listen and understand’” (NIV). Job’s friends heard him express his complaints ten times. Still, Job exclaimed: “If only someone would listen to me!” (Job 31:35a NLT). Why? Apparently, they weren’t listening with the intent of understanding.

Hearing, listening, and understanding are used interchangeably in passages such as these:

• “You have neither listened nor inclined your ears to hear, although the Lord persistently sent to you all his servants the prophets” (Jer 25:4 ESV).
• Jesus asked His disciples, "Having eyes do you not see, and having ears do you not hear?" (Mk 8:18).

Once you have listened and understood what the speaker is trying to communicate, only then is it time for your response. One of the most familiar passages about listening and responding is found in James 1:19-20: "Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry" (NIV). I confess that this is a massive challenge for me. I often answer before listening; if not audibly, I do it in my head and then wait for the first opportunity to jump in with my thoughts. I am preoccupied with something in my life relating to what they are telling me, or forming an argument, a retort, or some “wisdom” or advice I’ll share as soon as they give me an opening. It’s as if what I’m going to say is more important than what they are trying to tell me and they will end up feeling, like Job, “If only someone would listen to me!”

The Scriptures caution us about being more concerned with what we are going to say than with wholly listening.

• “Do you see someone who speaks in haste? There is more hope for a fool than for them” (Pr 29:20).
• “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others” (Php 2:3-4).
• “Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble” (Pr 21:23 ESV).

But what if someone says something hurtful or provocative? That is when we must try to be “slow to become angry” by not reacting in kind. “Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person” (Col 4:6).

When we respond, we have the opportunity to build others up with an encouraging, wise, or inspiring response.

• "Like a gold ring or an ornament of gold is a wise reprover to a listening ear" (Pr 25:12).
• “The Lord God has given me the tongue of those who are taught, that I may know how to sustain with a word him who is weary” (Is 50:4a).
• “Therefore encourage one another and build one another up” (1Th 5:11).
• "As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another" (Pr 27:17 NIV).

What if you don’t feel that you are qualified or wise enough to give that kind of response? In Janet Dunn’s Discipleship Journal article, “How to Become a Good Listener” she recommends that we should consider

put[ing] more emphasis on affirmation than on answers… Many times, God simply wants to use me as a channel of his affirming love as I listen with compassion and understanding. Often a person can be helped merely by having someone who will listen to [her] seriously. At times what our neighbor needs most is for someone else to know.

Let us commit to creating a culture of listening and responding in our families and other relationships. Silence the smartphone. Don’t stop their story. Block out the distractions. And pray that God will open your ears and minds, and will guide and bless your responses.